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A child and nursery
My two years old son adapted to a nursery without any big problems. However, because of an illness, he was at home for three weeks and now he cries every time when I leave him in the nursery. How can I help him?
Psychologist's answer Children in a collective such as nursery, have a daily schedule of activities. For example, it is known exactly when it’s time for breakfast, when it’s time to play or to go to sleep and a child is accustomed to this rhythm. As you wrote, your child adapted itself without any problem. I suppose that, after a long absence from the nursery, your child lost the habit of being in a collective and returned to the earlier lifestyle. In addition, having been ill, your boy probably received more attention and care than usual and is now trying to maintain the same „treatment“ although he is healed. Now, he needs to be adapted to the collective again. This is so-called re-adaptation and it often occurs after prolonged absence from nursery. It usually takes 7-14 days. During this period the child should be re-adapted to the collective. Here are some tips how to help him: - Make sure that your boy goes to sleep earlier in the evening, in order to be able to wake himself up in the morning feeling rested enough; - Let him bring with him to a nursery some of his favorite toys; - Don’t be in a hurry while entering the nursery. I advise you to start from home a little earlier than usual in order to have enough time to walk through the yard and the hole slowly. During this little walk, talk to him about some of his favourite topics; - Tell him what time you are going to come (after lunch, after sleeping); - In front of the door say him hallo, but remember - you must avoid a long „farewell“. |