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i have a jealous boyfriend
I have a boyfriend who is really great and I care about him very much. The only thing that bothers me is his jealousy. He is prone to jealous outbursts and scenes. It bothers him when I wear short skirt, when I go out with my friends, when he can not get me on the phone ... His behavior begins to choke me but I really care about him and I do not want to lose him. What should I do? Psychologist's answer Jealousy is a natural feeling in a relationship. However, if jealousy is excessive or unreasonable, then it becomes an inadequate feeling. Whether you are or how much you are willing to tolerate your partner’s jealousy, depends in the first place on your understanding of love and jealousy. If you equate love and jealousy, a jealous partner impresses you and deep inside you do not want anything to change in this relationship, but you only need to complain to someone. On the other hand your partner’s jealous demands (not to wear short, not to go out with friends ...) choke you and cause an anger, and you have a need for some change in your relationship. I have an impression that you haven’t talked to your boyfriend about this subject yet. If so, I advise you to discuss it openly as soon as possible. It is also important how old you and your boyfriend are, which is not evident from your question. Jealousy is, in the first place, a characteristic of a teenage love. Maturity and responsibility are acquired with age and jealousy weakens with growing rationality and responsibility. In any case, I think that you need to talk to your boyfriend. Try to find out what does he think about his behavior, whether he believes that more jealousy means more love, does jealousy mean that he doesn’t trust you enough and that he fears that he might lose you and so on. |